I’m going to cut to the chase…as moms we judge. We do. Not externally, not necessarily in a hurtful way but we do. Part of becoming who you are as a mom and re-finding your identity (the identity that packed up it’s suitcase and moved to Bermuda when you became a mom for the first time) is deciding what is important to you, what you want to do AND what you don’t want to do.
It’s inevitable that at some moment you’ll think in your head while observing another mom and her choices – “that’s not me, I’m not going to be like that”. This doesn’t make you a bad mom, friend, human being. In fact it proves your humanity and the fragility that is figuring out our places and paths. This doesn’t mean as moms we can’t be allies, friends and an intricate support system. We won’t always agree. We won’t. But if we respect each other our ability becomes ten fold what it was alone.
I am THAT mom, you know the one. The one who receives eyeball rolls for her “Ohhh she’s THAT mom” status. I’m THAT mom about a lot of things and I used to be embarrassed about it. But not now, I’m proud of who I am as a mom. Some things are still important to me and other things I let slide or reshape what I do and how I handle things. Some days I’m high fiving myself in my head and thinking I’ve got this whole parenting thing in the bag and other days I’m having a “world’s worst mom” mug engraved with my name. Yet seven years into this parenting thing I’m discovering it’s not the good days or the bad days that define you as a mom but the overall landscape of your life. I’m proud to be THAT mom. Whatever you are THAT mom about don’t be embarrassed, be proud. Our unique talents and experiences are what shape us. You are valuable as a parent, as a person. You are THAT mom and you rock!
