15 Things You Learn After You Give Birth to Twins

My life forever changed the day that I learned my husband and I were expecting twins. It was not part of our plan and turned our worlds upside down for a brief moment while it all sank in. Our oldest daughter was just 19 months old when I went into premature labor. I never would have guessed that twins would become part of our family’s ‘story’ – I never dreamed that something so seemingly terrifying could make my heart so full. It’s exhausting, demanding, overwhelming, amazing and wonderful all at once.

After my oldest daughter was born, I wrote a post entitled ’15 Things You Learn After You Give Birth’, today I’m going a step further and sharing ’15 Things You Learn After You Give Birth to Twins’.

  1. You instantly become envious of moms who are lucky enough to sport a mini-van! Yup, that’s right – you will WANT a mini-van.
  2. There’s really no point in trying to leave the house without spit up or other bodily fluids covering your clothing. Don’t get me wrong, I still shower and get dressed every day… but for what? Spit up no longer fazes me!
  3. They will often not be referred to as individuals but as ‘the twins’. This is not great for individualization and will start to drive you crazy. Don’t let it – almost everyone will say it. So unless you specifically request them to stop, it will continue. And if they have a sibling, be sure to be extra intentional about including the sibling. A lot of times strangers will gravitate to make over the ‘twins’ but try to keep the singleton included (same for when making plans and play dates… don’t leave the singleton sibling out!)
  4. I hear that some day I will get to sleep again. And by sleep, I mean all night. Ah, all night long – sounds like a dream! But don’t worry, you will somehow be able to survive (and thrive!) with very little sleep!
  5. Don’t expect to go anywhere without someone stopping you to ask if they are twins. People will come out of nowhere to ask you this.
  6. You will then be asked, ‘Are they identical?’ (For me I just stare blankly because – NO – boy/girl twins CAN’T be identical). Followed by ‘Were they a surprise?’ (Obviously…) Followed by ‘Are they natural?’ (What does this even mean?) Followed by ‘Do twins run in your family?’ (Which when coming from a stranger this seems like a transparent attempt to find out if we struggled with infertility!)
  7. Getting everyone changed, fed, bathed and clothed is a major accomplishment and deserves a reward. You will literally celebrate the things that used to seem so simple!
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  8. You will quickly learn not to compare milestones – one might roll over first, while the other is the first to sit up. One may walk while the other crawls around talking. It doesn’t matter – don’t compare!
  9. When diapers go on sale, stock up! Whenever Cartwheel has our brand of diapers, we buy in bulk! Don’t worry – you can never have too many. You will use them ALL!
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  10. If one baby gets sick, immediately expose the other. It is inevitable and the only thing worse than having two sick babies is having the sick baby get better right as the other baby gets sick.
  11. As long as you are using bottles (whether breast milk or formula), the dishwasher will likely be running for at least a year straight.
  12. Same is true for the washing machine.
  13. Everyone knows a twin and you will hear about it. “My cousin’s neighbor is a twin.” (Very interesting.)
  14. It’s not a competition – everyone will agree that whether you have one child or 5 children, raising kids is hard work. Don’t look down on parents of singletons. But when someone tells you that you have your hands full, remind them that your heart is also full.
  15. Twins mean twice the smiles, twice the laughs, twice the love.

Shortly after my babies came home from the hospital, I was still running on empty. I was feeling exhausted and spread thin. I was at an ice cream shop on State Street with all three kids and a perfect stranger looked at my newborns and said ‘you are SO lucky.’ At the time, my toddler was having a major meltdown and ice cream was the only way to get her to calm down (yes, I was rewarding terrible behavior). I thought the woman must be joking – but I looked at her and she repeated – ‘you are so lucky.’ She meant it. Six months later I know she genuinely felt that I was lucky and I now agree with her. I AM lucky. Blessed beyond measure and we have such a bright future to look forward to. So if you see a twin mama out and about, looking frazzled, remind her how lucky she is… she will thank you later!

You may also enjoy my post: One Year With Twins!

Alisa Sleep
Alisa was born and raised in Iowa before attending Arizona State University. She then lived in Chicago, Georgia and Florida before settling in Madison. From her nomadic lifestyle grew a love for the beach, as well as a fondness for spicy food, sushi, white wine, southern charm, Diamondbacks baseball and idyllic ocean sunsets. Alisa and her husband, Joe, are parents to Ava Mae (August 2012) and twins, Nora & Jacob (March 2014). Alisa is a work-from-home mompreneur with a passion for business, fashion, fitness, community and all things mom. When she’s not enjoying time at home with her family, you can find her sweating it out on the tennis court, training for the next big race, pinning her heart out on Pinterest and exploring Madison with her little ones (and sweet Boston Terrier, Peaches) in tow.


  1. I have two sets – older twin boys, single girl, and younger twin girls. The boys are 28 years old and are both daddys! (The “little” ones are 21 years old!) To all the “young” twin mommies out there…know that you DO get to sleep again (although I still remember the feeling that I never would) and know that all of the kids ARE a blessing, Enjoy every moment…time passes WAY to quickly!

  2. Funny story about #6 (I have 4yo b/g twins): My brother has twin boys and a cousin of mine has twin girls. So most people think they DO run in my family. However, all sets are fraternal and none of the moms are blood-related. (For those of you that don’t know, the female has to release two eggs for fraternal twins to happen.) So really, they don’t run in my family (and none of us were taking infertility drugs)…it’s just a happy blessing we all get to share! 🙂

    #13 is so true.
    #15 is also SO true! 🙂

    What a great article. Thanks for sharing!

  3. My B/G twins were a surprise right up until the second was born. They were my 6th and 7th children, the oldest being 12 at the time. I had 3 in diapers for a while. My previous baby had been 10 1/2 lbs, and the twins were each just over 5 lbs. at birth (home births). I was a La Leche League leader so I had knowledge of and support for nursing. It was definitely faster nursing 2 than one. 10 minutes and done due to more milk and nursing two at one time. As for #11, I never needed bottles, weaned right to a cup. That was a long time ago. My twins will be 26 in April and I am Nana to 15 grandchildren, so far, no twins in this next generation.

    • Also, my stepsister had fraternal twin boys, no blood relation. All “natural” twins. My paternal grandmother had twin cousins who were killed in WWI. That’s the only twins I know of but then I don’t know much about my mother’s family. I lost her and touch with her family when I was 2.

  4. I have GGG triplets who are now 15(two being identical) and BG twins who are now 6 from a previous marriage. While my husband has a B singleton who is 18, and a B singleton who is 9. My husband being 44 and me being 39 never considered having another child, but we now have GG twins who are now 8 months. I never thought I would have three sets multiples but life always have something to throw at you. My twins were ecstatic and so was his younger son. While the four older kids hated the thought but are now ok and love there little sisters. We weren’t to thrilled at the thought of having two more kids because of money reasons. But we are doing ok. Yeah the kids may not get my everything they want anymore but everyone is okay. And we are living.

  5. Twins are awesome 🙂 Mine are 4 and totally unexpected! Once we “survived” the first year – it was all good. And you get used to the questions etc. I really consider myself lucky with the kids I have!


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